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This has been something that's been on my mind for a few months now. Why is it that we, as women, criticize other women the most? And we're nasty about it too! When a beautiful woman who is dressed nicely walks into the room, why do we immediately see her as competition, judge her, and make nasty remarks behind her back just to make ourselves feel better? Like, what are we competing for? All of the men? All of the attention? There is an abundance of all of that. So why do we act this way?
Recently, there has been a big feminist movement towards equality and it has been so nice to see women of all ages, races, sizes, etc. come together as ONE to help each other and lift each other up. And yet, in everyday situations, I see and hear women all the time talk behind their friends' backs, make snarky comments about another woman, and generally be a "B" to one another. But why????
In all honesty, I used to be one of those women and it's a hard habit to break since it's been ingrained in us for so long. But that's just it, it's a HABIT. It's something we can and should break! So I made a conscious mindset shift to think about other women differently.
I decided that if I was a real feminist, I should be lifting every woman up no matter what. So I started with my mindset. When I see a woman - pretty, not-so-pretty, tall, short, black, white, young, old - I make a conscious effort to take that knee-jerk reaction judgement and flip it around so it's a compliment. I silently compliment her in my head to make my judgement a positive one. For example, a while ago I was out with my friends and I saw a woman wearing a tight white dress with an open back. My knee-jerk reaction was to judge her and think (please read this is a snotty voice with your nose turned up) "She's thinks she's all that, she thinks she's better than everyone, look at how short that dress is!" but I stopped myself and thought, I would hate it if someone actually thought that of me! I would go crawl in a hole and never come out. So I changed my judgement and thought "That dress looks amazing on her! Look how beautiful that open back dress is! It fits her like a glove!" and it was true, she did look amazing in that dress.
Why do we, as women, immediately go to the negative judgement instead of the positive? Why do we want to tear other women down?
So if you're a real feminist or if you just want the world to be a friendlier place, do this with me. Every time you see a woman, compliment her in your head. Does she have great hair? Great shoes? A nice smile? It will take a while, but I guarantee you will kick the habit and will be a happier person. I'd really love it if you shared your compliments with me so we can do this together!